• Dee

    Help! I don’t want to chase skinny, but that voice in my head (and the flab on my belly, thighs and arms) keeps telling me that I’m unattractive at my current size (good day, size 12-bad day, small size 14 and I’m 5’7). I see these women (one of which was pregnant-surprise to anyone that saw her) that are so beautifully slender. I always go and compliment them. They’re answer is always…’oh, I’m a runner.’ My shame has me remain silent. As I did the Baltimore marathon last year and has been running off and on for over a year now. Help…

    • JL

      Dee, first, I always feel compelled to share the disclaimer for this blog:
      Material on this site should not be considered a consultation with a medical or mental health professional. This site is community-based and peer supported. It is simply a place for individuals to share their experiences. The information on this site should not be construed as treatment. If you need medical assistance or counseling, contact a professional of your choosing.

      As a runner myself, I learned quickly, though was surprised, that running didn’t make me skinny. At the end of the day, I still had the same body type. it was just fit in a different way and certainly did burn some calories.

      From my own experience, I can only say that it is when I stopped comparing myself to others I felt more free to love my body/shape. I have shared my decision with my doctor to stay at my current weight (which she has confirmed is a healthy weight for my age/size/gender) and she supports me. If I’m healthy, then my concern with being smaller or thinner is about vanity, not about fitness or health.

      My advice, then, is to work with your doctor to determine what healthy means to you and then determine how you want to approach it. And seek support, whether through blogs, counseling or support groups. Wishing you the very best.

  • Monica Niska

    I just love your blog. It has such good information and perspective! I look forward to referring to it often in the near future. Thanks for doing what you are doing!

    • JL

      Monica, thank you! Thank you for what you are doing, as well!

  • CG

    I’m about one year from the big 5-0, and I really, really want to try and be as healthy as possible by then (not feeling so healthy right now). I have purchased so many books on veganism, read tons of websites, blogs, etc. that I often feel overwhelmed! I feel so strongly about the possibility of becoming vegan. I was wondering if I could ask you to share how long it took you to officially become vegan, and what were some of the benefits you experienced? Thanks so much!

    • JL

      Hi CG! Happy almost birthday, one year early :) I ate vegetarian for about eight years before I went vegan. I’ll be honest. I never once considered going vegan. When I did go vegan, it was simply because I had completed a two-week nutritional cleanse in which the only animal product I consumed was an egg. I realized the “fear” of no cheese or milk was misguided. I didn’t miss it at all. So, my advice would be to 1) Read the book Vegan for Life. It’s really informative and 2) Try to eat vegan for 30 days (Colleen Patrick Goudreau has a new 30-day challenge book). Once you do it, you’ll realized how easy it is.

      Oh, I felt amazing when I gave up dairy. I think i just consumed way too much. I had walked around for years feeling “bloated”, which I assumed was the result of a vegetarian diet. It went away when I went vegan.

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